20 Questions to a Better Relationship
|RPIG -- Reserved Practical Intellectual Giver. This makes you a Rock of Gibraltar.|
You are loyal, kind, thoughtful and conscientious. You have a fundamentally good heart. You do a good job of making people feel at ease, even if you yourself are not completely comfortable. You give of yourself as an expression of affection. It can wear you out at times, so you have to be cautious about knowing your limits. If you overextend yourself, you set yourself up for resentment.
You're successful, smart and fun to be with, but your self-esteem could use some boosting. You don't like conflict, and you don't like asking for things. Remember no one can read your mind. It's important that you speak up!
You have many small crushes, but it takes you a long time to let yourself fall in love. You can get caught up second-guessing yourself and worrying if the other person really *like* likes. You don't make the first move if you can help it. Generally you end up with another clever RPIG who knows one when s/he sees one. This adds up to one long courtship. Fortunately this also adds up to one long marriage.
You would never cheat. You hate the thought of hurting someone's feelings. It takes a long time for you to give up on someone.
At times you can be *too* thoughtful. You can be prone to worry.
You may be an Eagle Scout.
6 % are this type.
|RPIT -- Reserved Practical Intellectual Taker. This makes you a Love Geek.|
You are weirdly sexy. It doesn't take people a long time to get to know you, but people *think* it takes a long time, because you are as cool and reserved after a year as you are on a first meeting. You don't tend to date casually. You tend to suddenly find yourself in long-term relationships.
Your approach to conflict is your greatest asset, and it complements almost every other type. You don't express yourself or your feelings in dramatic terms, but you hold your own against those who do. You are generally calm, but capable of ramping up, and you don't give up until the issue is resolved. This means even the hottest temper or coolest conflict-avoider can feel comfortable pursuing their needs with you. And you don't hold a grudge. You work through something, and it's done. You rock.
Sure, you like sex. And you communicate with your partner well, so you're good at it. But it's not something you would make jokes about or bring up in polite company (not that you don't appreciate that kind of humor). You're no prude, but that's just not your style.
You'd make an excellent parent.
You enjoy food and can be a ravenous eater. A good cook will get your attention quickly.
4 % are this type.
|RPYG -- Reserved Practical Physical Giver. This makes you a 1950s Parent.|
You are patient, loving, generous and devoted. You are unflappable. If on some rare occasion you do raise your voice or say a swear word in anger, anyone around to hear it will remember it (and think it was funny). You're so cute and charming that you get a lot of attention -- not all of it wanted! You're often polite rather than assertive. You have the right to assert!
Your calm, conservative nature conceals a passionate heart.
You can have trouble bringing up problems, but your approach to conflict is calm and even-handed. The problem can be is that you are so busy worrying about your partner's satisfaction that you don't ensure your own. This can build up over time and make you restless. You are more likely to cheat emotionally than physically.
You would be a great candidate to balance out an XSYT, but not a good match for an unappreciative RPYT.
You have an odd, ritualized vice that doesn't suit the rest of your persona -- like smoking cigars or playing Bingo.
You might be one of the Cleavers.
14 % are this type.
|RPYT -- Reserved Practical Physical Taker. This makes you a Stoic.|
You are intelligent, rugged, disciplined and profound. Even if you're saddled with a desk job, you are starving for the outdoors. You are very slow to warm up to people, and people are slow to warm up to you, but once they know you they never forget you.
You do not get much attention from your target sex, and this means you can feel unloved or unwanted. This is not the case! You are just a hard nut to crack, and your social anxiety leaves you overlooked or outside the frame altogether. What is good for you is increments of low-interaction group activity, like sports or outdoor work. The person who can chop wood with you will melt your heart.
In a long-term relationship, you are loving and devoted. You are calm in a conflict until your partner presses your buttons. It's rarely the problem at hand that gets under your skin, but how your partner handles it. Don't take it personally! Sometimes it's just the only way your partner knows how to express things.
You would never cheat, and your approach to sex is conventional and almost prudish. But sex for you is a basic need, and you may have a sense of entitlement to it. Make sure your partner is comfortable and satisfied -- by communicating both in and out of the bedroom -- and you will be more satisfied yourself.
You may take a lot of what your partner does for granted. Make a special effort to reward and validate him/her, and you will be rewarded.
You have nice legs.
6 % are this type.
|RSIG -- Reserved Sentimental Intellectual Giver. This makes you a People-Pleaser.|
You are the most complicated and dynamic of any type. You are brilliant, tender, romantic and a joy to be with. You're the favorite of many of your friends. It's not a party until you get there. You are bursting with feeling and sentiment and insight but you stifle most of it. Although you always striving to improve your non-romantic relationships, you may take your romantic relationship for granted.
You're highly adaptable, and you conform to your circumstances. You may be a youngest child. You would probably be content with almost anyone, and almost anyone would be happy to have you. But just because you're content doesn't mean you're happy. Don't settle!
You'd rather ignore your problems than rock the boat. In the long run this can make you unhappy and make your partner exhausted. Try picking a fight just to see how it goes. You may find conflict is less painful than you thought.
Your sex life could be fantastic if you could stop worrying about everything so much (did I wash my hands? how do I look? what do I need to do tomorrow?). You need an attentive, expressive lover who makes you feel at ease and never puts pressure on you. If you feel secure with your partner outside the bedroom, it will make all the difference.
You cry at odd movies.
11 % are this type.
|RSIT -- Reserved Sentimental Intellectual Taker. This makes you a Archetypal Older Child.|
You are a hard nut to crack. You have a wicked sense of humor. Despite your reserved nature, you are more comfortable (and successful) in the meeting and courting mode than you are in a long-term relationship. You feel misunderstood, and usually you are.
When you're in a good mood, you're funny, fascinating and a sexy firecracker, but when you're in a bad mood you are moody, broody and impatient. In courtship mode, you don't have to let anyone see your moody side. You'd rather have enough time apart to deal with your bad moods alone; unfortunately, it rarely works that way.
You stifle *a lot* of anger and frustration -- from all areas of your life -- so when it comes out it comes out nasty. More than any other type, your conflicts tend to turn on one tiny thing -- the dishes, the laundry -- that's really a scapegoat for your larger dissatisfactions with your relationship. You're baffled that your partner won't just do the dishes -- your partner is baffled that it's such a big deal.
When you do take the time to deal with your frustrations, you are warm and charming and a rock star.
8 % are this type.
|RSYG -- Reserved Sentimental Physical Giver. This makes you a Nice Guy/Nice Girl.|
You are responsible, logical and calm. You make an excellent best friend.
You dislike conflict -- you prefer to express yourself through action, not discussion -- but you know it's necessary. This means you are more likely to tackle an issue before it grows, but you're also more likely to stop an argument before the issue is resolved to your satisfaction.
This isn't necessarily a bad thing -- it's kind of a nice compromise between fighting about everything and fighting about nothing -- but be sure you're representing your own interests.
You have a strong sexual appetite, but it seems so out of place with the rest of your persona that people find it hard to believe. They may assume you won't like something R-rated!
You don't want to cheat, but you might.
A lot of RSITs think they're RSYGs. They're not.
Your patience will be rewarded.
0 % are this type.
|RSYT -- Reserved Sentimental Physical Taker. This makes you a Brute.|
You are volatile, stormy and very sexy. You're magnetic. You're the life of the party when you're in a good mood, but you can be dangerous when you're not. Others may be drawn to you against their better judgment. You've been hit on by a married person more than once!
In your professional life, your type makes you a star, a force to be reckoned with, and the one people trust when they have a tough problem. In a relationship, you are a bull in a china shop, and if your partner can't keep up s/he may get plowed down. You don't ask much of your significant other, so you have little tolerance for high demands on you. For you, it's either love it or leave it.
You work hard and play hard. You have a vice that may be tough to kick. People try to get your attention, and they may fail. This can make you seem aloof.
This may not sound too flattering, but the truth is that because you know yourself so well you're happier in a relationship than most everybody else.
You may be Heathcliff.
0 % are this type.
|XPIG -- Expressive Practical Intellectual Giver. This makes you a Catch.|
You are a dreamboat. Parents love you and want to set you up with their kids. However, first dates are tough because it takes time for your true self to shine through.
You are generous and kind. You think first and act later, postponing a decision if you have to. You are cool in a conflict, but your practical side means if your partner exaggerates ("we never see movies I want to see!") it bothers you more than most. You may hold a resentment over it.
You're a romantic. You pay close attention to your significant other's needs, and this makes you an excellent lover and partner. The problem is that your friends and lovers may find it so easy to express things to *you* that they lose sight of whether you feel as comfortable with *them*! This can make you feel awkward and restless until you set boundaries, which you're going to have to do.
You seek adventure in your life outside the relationship. You strive to prove and actualize yourself.
You would make an excellent parent or godparent.
You are coiffed.
Did you see "Big Fish"? 'Cause you're like Ewan MacGregor in "Big Fish."
10 % are this type.
|XPIT -- Expressive Practical Intellectual Taker. This makes you a Manager.|
You are cool, thoughtful and intelligent. Your approach and your sense of humor are under-the-radar, but your charm is undeniable. You keep everything under control. You have distinctive vocal mannerisms. You may not have much interest in approaching strangers, but when you do, you are successful.
You will probably end up with someone beautiful, fascinating and off-balance. While your partner may steal the limelight, it's you that keeps things running smoothly and provides stability in your relationship. If you are with someone as contemplative and hard-headed as you, you can have a tough time.
Your greatest asset is that you tackle conflict as it rises -- you don't ignore it and let it brew. If you have a partner that *does* let it brew, it will make you crazy! You can find yourself fighting for two -- trying to anticipate your partner's needs and draw their feelings out -- which is exhausting and, well, not your job.
You would never cheat.
4 % are this type.
|XPYG -- Expressive Practical Physical Giver. This makes you a Tempted Spouse.|
You are magnetic, charming, and impossible to resist. You have no problem with approaching your target sex -- it just comes naturally to you, and the thrill of warming up a stranger is one of your great drives.
Still, very few people really know you. You don't just *feel* misunderstood -- you probably are! You may be nursing a heartache.
You're calm in a conflict (almost *too* calm -- a more emotional partner may think you're not engaged) and quick with affection. Fighting makes you uncomfortable, but as you avoid direct conflict your frustrations can manifest in the cold shoulder and passive-aggression, which is no better!
However, as a parent, you're refreshingly direct.
Like an XSYG, you put so much thought and effort in what you give to your partner that you may set yourself up for resentment if you don't feel properly acknowledged. Be alert that you're asking for what you want -- and not trying to solve problems your partner doesn't have.
You've got to open up! You express and give so much of yourself in other ways -- don't be afraid to express your inner self.
You might be a Diane Lane movie.
12 % are this type.
|XPYT -- Expressive Practical Physical Taker. This makes you a Player.|
You are clever and sexy. You know what you want and how to get it. You command attention in a room of strangers, as your charisma, your personality and your spending habits are all oriented toward making an impression on your target sex. You pay attention to details.
You reel people in easily, but have a harder time keeping them around since you crave as much excitement from a long-term relationship as you are from a first date. Combine your demanding nature with the fact that you're hard to keep up with and easily bored, and you may be tempted into infidelity.
In a conflict, you're brutal -- you know how to unleash one cutting remark that turns a normal fight into a brawl or a breakup. You may feel like you don't have time for fighting. Remember that just because your partner doesn't understand what you want doesn't mean they don't understand *you*.
You feel confined by social pressures, both to pair up and stay paired. It will (and should) take you years to settle (and for you, it may really feel like you're settling).
9 % are this type.
|XSIG -- Expressive Sentimental Intellectual Giver. This makes you a Teddy Bear.|
You are tender, honest, generous and fair. You are an excellent kisser and a sensitive, communicative lover, and you know it. You would never intentionally hurt someone's feelings or overstep his/her boundaries. You have pretty eyes.
Most people enjoy your laid-back attitude and sharp wit but don't necessarily find it attractive. Don't worry. While you're being yourself, many other types are wasting time trying to be something they're not. When the right person comes around, s/he'll know you're the right person, too!
You are so rational and deliberate in an argument that it can frustrate and exhaust your partner. Your fights can take forever, but your press on with them until they are completely resolved and both you and your partner are satisfied. If your partner is weak of will, s/he may just give in. Be cautious of this! An emotional or passive-aggressive outburst later will hurt and horrify you.
When you make friends, you make them for life. You can go without speaking to a friend for years and pick up right where you left off. You are completely faithful, both physically and emotionally.
9 % are this type.
|XSIT -- Expressive Sentimental Intellectual Taker. This makes you a Hellcat.|
You are fiery to be with! You're dynamic and volatile and a living roller coaster. You're also very attractive and fashionable, so your target sex gets drawn in like a moth. You love attention and it never makes you feel awkward. At a party you command attention, but you're a lightweight with alcohol and if you drink too much there can be trouble!
Like an XSYT, you tend to over-analyze things, so the slightest comment or action from your significant other can send you into a tailspin. Conflict with you can be very productive or very dangerous. You are incapable of lying. If your partner can't handle the truth, that's his/her problem. You are explosive when you're upset, but when the smoke clears you are right back on track with no ill will.
This is a highly effective way to resolve issues and keep them from brewing, but this can stun and hurt a partner with a more laid-back approach. You aren't angry later, but s/he might be. Make sure when you've gotten your satisfaction from an argument that your partner is satisfied as well!
You would never cheat. But combine your hot-blooded style with the fact that your partner is *attracted* to that style, and you've got a recipe for being cheated on. If you pair up with an X_YG (and that's not unlikely) you may get caught in his/her cycle of cheating. Make sure your partner feels appreciated and loved to balance out the fire of your approach to conflict.
You might be Eva Peron.
7 % are this type.
|XSYG -- Expressive Sentimental Physical Giver. This makes you a Sex Bomb.|
You are the sexiest! You are the most attractive and charismatic of all types. You're a captivating speaker and a great dinner date -- relaxed, self-effacing, charming and generous. There is probably grief in your past -- trying to keep the peace in a tough family situation, or an early heartbreak -- and you'll need to finish healing from that someday. It can be trouble as a relationship grows older.
You can lie effortlessly -- not necessarily a bad thing. You may have problems with fidelity. You need frequent praise and validation, and in seeking it you may make decisions that aren't consistent with your general good judgment. Long-distance relationships are especially hard for you, and you'd need to put in twice the effort.
You strongly dislike conflict and may make foolish choices to avoid it. Like an XPYG, you give so much of yourself to your partner that you may set yourself up for resentment. You internalize your feelings more and have a hard time getting over them. You may stay in a doomed relationship out of guilt. Be alert to this!
Your sex drive and sexiness will always be high. Be careful to listen to your partner's needs.
You may be a Jude Law character.
0 % are this type.
|XSYT -- Expressive Sentimental Physical Taker. This makes you a Firebrand.|
You are volatile, sexy and sexually driven. You're magnetic and fascinating, but you don't really enjoy playing the field -- it makes you nervous and preys on your insecurities. But when you fall for someone you fall hard.
You tend to over-analyze things, so the slightest comment or action from your significant other can send you into a tailspin. You crave attention and validation from your loved ones, so if your friends don't like your partner or your partner doesn't like your friends it makes you suffer. Unfortunately the two are often in conflict -- you have excellent insight with your friends, but in a relationship you are blind. Listen to your gut!
You blow hot and cold, with big highs and big lows. This makes the bad times very bad but the good times very good, so you tend to stay in a problem relationship much longer than you should. But when a relationship fails, you hold a grudge.
You would benefit from more confidence. Remember your strengths, and demand a significant other that respects and values you.
You can be needy and jealous. Fortunately you are very good-looking.
0 % are this type.
|288 people have taken this quiz. Here is the distribution:|
|RPIG||Rock of Gibraltar||5.9 %||......|
|RPIT||Love Geek||3.8 %||....|
|RPYG||1950s Parent||14.2 %||...............|
|RSIT||Archetypal Older Child||8 %||........|
|RSYG||Nice Guy/Nice Girl||0 %|
|XPYG||Tempted Spouse||12.2 %||.............|
|XSIG||Teddy Bear||8.7 %||.........|
|XSYG||Sex Bomb||0 %|
|X/R||51 % are Expressive||49 % are Reserved|
|P/S||65.3 % are Practical||34.7 % are Sensitive|
|Y/I||41.7 % are Physical||58.3 % are Intellectual|
|G/T||61.8 % are Giver||38.2 % are Taker|
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